I Don’t Need Feminism Because…

I don’t need feminism because I do not see myself as a slut, nor do I see that as something to be proud of.

I’m in a loving relationship with a man who loves to take care of me and we’re on the same page about our relationship.

Rape culture does not exist.

I don’t see myself as better than men.

The wage gap does not exist. See here

I am a Christian, I know that traditional roles for men and women are Biblical.

I am secure in being a woman.

I don’t need abortion.

Hair dye has not leaked into my brain, causing delusions.

I know what hygiene is.

I wear a bra (bouncing boobs is painful. It’s not about the patriarchy)

The patriarchy does not exist.

I am not voting for Hillary just because she is a woman and appeals to womens “ideals”.

I have the logics.

As you can see, I don’t need feminism. Many women don’t need feminism. Actually, no one needs modern feminism. It is a cancer in our society. And poor men are suffering from it. They are being attacked for existing. Women are not.

The grit of it is women are getting a kick out of being victims. They are looking for things to get offended by. Stop being a bunch of pansies. You are making me ashamed of my gender.

Seriously, when did feminism become yelling in a street, your armpit hair pink, in lingerie garters with X’s taped over your nipples?

It used to be about respect. About a single woman being able to support her family. About women having a say in who’s president.

Now women want “free bleeding” “free the nipples” and free abortion.

I don’t need these things. Neither do you. Grow up.

You Don’t Need the Burka

Modesty is a touchy subject amongst the Christian population.

Amongst the entire population really.

Everyone has an opinion. Here’s ours.

“You Don’t Need the Burka”

by Wild Thing and Bohemian Goddess

 

Modesty is not about what you put on your body. Your wardrobe is a result of your mindset.

You can’t look at somebody who is wearing less clothing than you think they ought to and say “They have low self-esteem. They’re dressing like that because they’re trying to get boy’s attention.”

I, Wild Thing, am married. I dress in a way that is flattering, I dress in what my husband likes, I dress in a way that gives me confidence.

I, Bohemian Goddess, am a single pringle, so naturally I have some interest in attracting the opposite sex, but I believe the most honest way to do that is by dressing myself in whatever makes me feel the most like ME. I might show my back, some stomach or legs, but I’m not doing that for the sole purpose of reeling in men.

Okie doke, now that we have that established, we can move forward.

What makes a long sleeve shirt more modest than a tank top?

Are arms immodest? Are shoulders?

At what point does immodesty kick into effect?

We like crop tops, shorts, high heels, open-back shirts, and strapless dresses.

They make us feel confident.

THAT is what women should be dressing for.

We are not responsible for men’s thoughts. That is a blatant lie fed to us by those who would like us to wear burkas and stay indoors. Rigid Christians (and rigid peoples of other beliefs, such as Islam) who think that to show is skin is to be immodest when really it’s all about intention.

As stated above, we dress to feel beautiful, to feel good about ourselves. We don’t dress so that men walking down the street want to hire us to have sex with them.

Modesty is different for different people! We aren’t trying to tell you what to wear. But be mindful of who you are dressing for.

On a slightly different, but very related, note…

“Slut-shaming”

What. The. Heck?

Why is this term a thing?

When did people decide that being a slut is something to be praised and protected? That’s like saying prostitution is fine and stripping is morally fine.

By the way, since nobody can use a dictionary anymore, the word “Slut” is defined as ” a woman with many sexual partner. See; whore, tramp, harlot”

It’s not about her dressing a certain way. It’s about behavior. Shameful behavior that we should not be encouraging.

The problem with people is that we think it’s better to encourage someone in wrong behavior rather than hurt their feelings.

It’s like saying “No, you’re fine, I’m not going to try to lead you away from Hell because your eternal misfortune is not worth hurting your feelings by saying that maybe you should present yourself in a way that’s a little more respectable.”

If you love someone, you want them to be happy, to feel good, but also you want them to know when they have messed up.

It’s like the relationship between parents and children. Parents love their kids and have their best interest at heart. But when the kid does something wrong, they get disciplined. It’s not because the parent doesn’t love their child. The exact opposite. The parents love their child so much that they don’t want them to repeat that mistake.

That’s what we have to do for our friends.

If Bohemian Goddess was walking around in hot pants and a bralette and stilettos, sleeping with anyone that wanted to have sex with her, you can bet your sweet patuckus I’d tell her to knock it off because she’s worth more than that.

That’s what the heart of modesty is. Self-worth. Respectability.

When you dress for other people it’s no longer about how you view yourself. And that’s unhealthy and you’ll never get the fulfillment you’re looking for.

Random Thought For the Day

When I die, I don’t want to be cremated. I want to be buried in the ground so that my body can rot away and one day archaeologists can dig me up.

If people still did it, I’d love to be mummified.

I imagine that costs a crap-ton of money.

However! I still want my family to get an urn in remembrance of me. Urns are cool. They can be pretty.

I want them to keep skittles in my urn and freak people out.

They’ll be thinking “Taste the rainbow”

Guests be thinking “Holy cannibalism batman, they’re tasting their grandma.”

It’s gonna be great. I’ll laugh from heaven at the horrified face of my great-granddaughters boyfriend when she hands him a handful of skittles from the urn and whispers seductively “Taste the rainbow”

These are my long term plans.

A Post in Which I Use a Mean Word

WARNING: If finding out the actual meaning of the word ‘slut’ and why the term ‘slut-shaming’ needs to be done away with offends you than this is not the post for you.

Someone told me today that the word ‘slut’ is around the make girls feel bad about showing off their body.

Obviously this person has never seen a dictionary.

The definition of slut: A woman who has many sexual partners. Also see- whore, harlet, tramp.

Huh. Nothing about her body or the way she dresses.

An awful thing has happened. People now use the term “slut-shaming” when they feel like one person is trying to tell another person how to dress.

Misusing words is dangerous.

By saying people shouldn’t ‘slut-shame’ you are inadvertently saying that being a slut is okay.

This is what your daughters, sisters, and friends are seeing. Being a slut is ok because people who slut-shame are evil, rigid, Christians who are judgmental, celibate, and self-righteous.

And no one wants to be like that.

STOP USING THIS TERM!

You don’t want your little girls to grow up to be sluts! Unexpected pregnancies resulting in abortions would happen. STD’s. Broken hearts. Emotional damage. Sometimes bodily damage.

Saying we shouldn’t ‘slut-shame’ is like saying prostitution is admirable and stripping is morally ok.

What we should be doing is teaching girls that they shouldn’t body-shame which is making other people feel bad about their bodies.

We should be discouraging them from a slutty lifestyle.

Christians especially should not be calling other people out on “slut-shaming”!  When we see others crying out about people “slut-shaming” we need to tell them that nothing about being a slut is commendable and that they should not be encouraging that!

Stand up for your beliefs! You are being silenced because you are afraid of hurting feelings.

Jesus was not silenced. He preached about sexual misconduct to hundreds of people! He told them what was wrong to do. You can do that! You are capable.

The only group that is allowed to be offended and oppressed nowadays is Christians. Anyone else and it’s a hate crime. But not Christians. Because we are SILENT. Speak up!

The church is being persecuted by our culture and we are letting it happen. Other people will not do the work for you. Christians needs to have a voice again.

The Truth AboutWomen Being Paid Less

Here’s the truth: Women are not getting paid less.

Anyone who has taken any sort of logical thinking course can figure out that the statistics can’t possibly take into account every possibility.

The fact is, yes, on average women make less of an income than men.

Because less women work! In 2014 47.4 of the civilian workforce was female. That 2.6% that was added onto the male wage average would’ve been quite a bit a money, making it look like men earned more. Which they did. Because there’s more of them.

More women are likely to quit a job to take care of family than men. The poll from non-working adults showed that 61% of women gave this reason and only 37% of men.

Also, take into account maternity leave, where women still have a job that they aren’t making money from.

Women are more likely to take part-time jobs so that they can also care for children, whereas more men take full-time jobs, consequently earning more money per year than women.

There are of course exception to every rule.

But if you look at the average per-year wage statistics statistics, which is all we get, it certainly looks like women are discriminated against, when really they just work less or work lower paying jobs.

More men seek the higher-paying full-time jobs so that they can support their families.

Middle-class wives, for the most part, don’t absolutely have to work and consequently don’t seek the highest paying jobs. They tend to find jobs that they’ll enjoy doing, or jobs where they can work from home, which, on average, won’t pay as much.

The wage gap doesn’t exist. It’s lies being spoon-fed to you from a media that wants to get feminists riled up.

Do some research, don’t just accept what you see on the news

Confessions of a Ninja Ballerina: Marriage

It has been 3 1/2 months since Golden Boy and I tied the knot.

It has been truly wonderful.

We have our own place, which we love. A cute little cabin, very small and very adorable. I’m having a grand time decorating on a budget. Value Village. Nobody should be above it. I found the most beautiful framed chalkboard there.

I try really hard to be a good wife and cook our meals most days. On days when I just really don’t feel like it, Golden Boy steps right in and gladly cooks dinner for me, which I find very sweet.

Of course there are the hard parts. But they aren’t bad. Just difficult. Little fights happen just like they did while we were dating. We get past them.

We go on a nice date night once a month. April’s happens to be tonight. He’s taking me out to dinner. I’m very excited🙂

We have impromptu ‘date nights’ also, which usually consist of popcorn and South Park paired with a nice red wine. It works for us.

So, that’s what we’ve been up to. If you have any spectacular advice for newlyweds, we would love to hear it. Or if you newlyweds out there want to share your little stories, I would love to read them!

Also, would y’all be interested if I posted my favorite recipes so far? I have some good ones….

Bohemian Goddess and I do a Cafe Crawl

Recently the glorious Bohemian Goddess and I stormed through Anchorage, Alaska. While there we decided to do a café crawl.

We hit four cafes and thought we would give y’all a review.

Our first stop was Kaladi Brothers off 7th Avenue. We ordered the 4 cheese quiche and a hazelnut mocha to share.

Ratings:

Quiche: Bohemian Goddess-7        Wild Thing – 7

Mocha: BG- 9     WT- 9

Customer Service: BG-4.5       WT-5

Atmosphere: BG-7.5         WT- 8

 

We really liked it. There was awesome indie music, weird artwork, lots of walls separating sections, which we liked. Very modern, very relaxed.

 

Second stop was Steam Dot. We ordered an Americano.

Ratings:

Americano: BG- 8.5       WT- 8.5

Customer Service:  BG- 6.5     WT-8

Atmosphere:  BG – 8.5     WT-7

The music was good there too, maybe a little loud, but very good. There was a full bar there, which would’ve been cool if we were 21. Also, there was a Chris Evans look-alike. That was pleasant.

 

Next was Midnight Sun Café. I ordered the Wedding Cake Latte which was Coconut, vanilla, and Irish Cream. Bohemian Goddess order a Strawberry Guava Watermelon Red Bull Italian soda.

Ratings:

Latte:  WT- 6.5

Italian Soda:  BG- 6.5

Customer Service:  BG- 9     WT-9

Atmosphere: BG- 7.5    WT-7.5

 

The place was cute, kinda hippie, relaxing. Plus they had Taco comics. Adorable. It was colorful without being overwhelming and, again, good music.

 

Monday morning before we left town we stopped in Busy Beans. They serve Kaladi Brothers coffee. So we knew the coffee would be good. We both ordered a quad-shot mocha. I got a ham, cheddar, spinach, and pesto Panini. BG got a turkey, pepper jack, tomato, mayo, and grey poupon Panini.

Ratings:

Coffee: BG- 9       WT-9

Food:  BG-10!     WT-10!    (Soooooo yummy!)

Atmosphere: BG- 8   WT-8.5

Customer Service: BG-8      WT-8

 

It was a very open place. Had a kids section and everything. Cute artwork everywhere. The sandwiches took a while but were well worth the wait! Good music, just like everywhere else. Nothing too well-known, which we really enjoyed.

 

All in all, everything was way better than Starbucks and I don’t know why anyone would choose Starbucks over Kaladi Brothers. Seriously people. Drink local.

What’s your favorite café or coffee place? Please let us know!