Soul Mate Part 2

There’s disagreement in the Christian community as to whether or not we really have soul mates. Maybe you don’t like the term ‘soul mate’, but that’s all it is; a term. I’m just using it to describe the person God intends for you to marry. I believe they are interchangeable.

I had someone ask for my Biblical sources for my statements in the previous post, and I thought I’d share them with you guys too.

First off is Genesis 2:18, 21-24. (Disclaimer: I won’t be rewriting all of the Bible verses in here. You have internet. Go look them up 🙂 ) This section of the Bible talks about how God made a helper for Adam. Just one. Not multiple to choose from. They were to be one flesh- the heart of God’s design for marriage.

1 Corinthians 7:1-2. Unless celibate, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.

I don’t know about you guys, but that seems to mean that there aren’t several people that the man should marry. Just one that God intends for him to marry.

Matthew 19: 4-6 b : Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.

That one may seem like it’s for marriage, but think about it. God knows who you are going to marry. He knows who he wants you to marry. I don’t know exactly how God works, and I don’t pretend to, but I believe that he essentially ‘joins’ you and your future spouse together quite some time before you even meet.

It’s like God is shipping us together and hoping we have the good sense to become canon

Sorry, fangirl lingo. But it works.

Of course, there’s always the argument of free will.

“The idea that God has one person for you to marry contradicts one of the fundamental aspects of the human nature, that He gave us; free will”

Except that argument just doesn’t work. God is not forcing us to marry anyone. We can marry whoever the heck we want. But God has one person that you are perfect for, and who is perfect for you. He still allows us to exercise free will, but what we need to do is pray for guidance from Him. We should pray that we find the person God has appointed for us.

If you guys have any more questions, please ask away in the comments.

Soul Mate

Soul Mate. The phrase brings to mind the whimsical, romantic, slightly ridiculous idea that there is one person in the whole world that you’re meant to be with. Kind of insane, right? But are soul mates real?

I recently read a blog post by Trusty Chucks (Mary) about this very issue. I did not agree with her position on the issue and I would like to state my own. Please understand that I’m not trying to bash on Mary, I’m simply reviewing her post and countering her arguments. Like a debate, except I’m the only one who knows about it…

First of all, though, I would like to ask you very kindly not to disregard my opinion on this just because I’m young. No, I haven’t had much experience in this field (though I’m pretty positive my boyfriend is my soul mate… just saying), but I’ve had good, and bad, relationships modeled for me throughout my life. And anyway, this is just an opinion piece. I hope you spend some time thinking about this is all.

Mary’s definition of a soul mate, however, was skewed. She believed that a soul mate is the non-existent person who would complete you, fill in the holes in your life in every way possible. The rest of her argument branched off of this theory.

I’d like to point out the dictionary defines a soul mate as a person, especially of the opposite sex, with whom one has a deeply personal relationship. Nothing about being completed, or doing the completing. And… well that kind of covers her argument.

Now, how about where God is concerned? Are soul mates Biblical? I believe they are. For one thing, God has only one person in mind for you to marry, not a dozen that you can choose from. I don’t know about you, but that sounds like a soul mate to me.

I believe soul mates are real in that sense. God has someone out there for you. He, or she, won’t be perfect, they won’t fill in all the gaps. You need God for that. But they’re meant for you. That’s your soul mate.

Please comment your opinions on this, I’m super curious to hear them 🙂