Confessions of a Ninja Ballerina: Marriage

It has been 3 1/2 months since Golden Boy and I tied the knot.

It has been truly wonderful.

We have our own place, which we love. A cute little cabin, very small and very adorable. I’m having a grand time decorating on a budget. Value Village. Nobody should be above it. I found the most beautiful framed chalkboard there.

I try really hard to be a good wife and cook our meals most days. On days when I just really don’t feel like it, Golden Boy steps right in and gladly cooks dinner for me, which I find very sweet.

Of course there are the hard parts. But they aren’t bad. Just difficult. Little fights happen just like they did while we were dating. We get past them.

We go on a nice date night once a month. April’s happens to be tonight. He’s taking me out to dinner. I’m very excited 🙂

We have impromptu ‘date nights’ also, which usually consist of popcorn and South Park paired with a nice red wine. It works for us.

So, that’s what we’ve been up to. If you have any spectacular advice for newlyweds, we would love to hear it. Or if you newlyweds out there want to share your little stories, I would love to read them!

Also, would y’all be interested if I posted my favorite recipes so far? I have some good ones….

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Anniversary Musings

You know that moment when you lock eyes with someone for the first time and you just… know?

There’s this shiver crawling in slow motion up your spine. Your mouth twitches into a smile. You find so many hidden things in those eyes.

And you want to know more about them.

It’s been two years since Golden Boy and I went on our first date. Of course, we didn’t know it was a date until he dropped me off. That’s when we decided it had been a date. He met my dad for pity’s sake.

That first date was the most nerve-wracking experience. The entire time we were desperate for non-awkward conversation. I kept staring at his hands, wondering if they were brave enough to hold mine on the first date. I swear we hardly looked at each other.

Two years later we can’t stop looking at each other.

I want to tell all you girls out there (and boys) that there is no problem WAITING. When Golden Boy and I started dating, we had already been friends for a year and we just had this feeling that things were going to work out. I don’t know about him, but I was positive that I could spend the rest of my life flirting with this man.

There’s nothing wrong with waiting until you are sure.

We have something so special, him and I. We are each other’s first and only relationship. First date. First kiss. First everything. And that is not something that is common these days. I’m so glad that he is getting all of me and that I am getting all of him. No one took any of me as theirs and kept it. I was able to tell him that I waited for him. And he waited for me.

There is nothing glorious about being a heartbreaker. There is nothing special about burning through boyfriends or girlfriends. Slow down. Wait to fall in love.

I was in love with my man long before we went on our first date. The great part is that love gets so much deeper with time. Every day I love him more.

I hope that everyone reading this gets that chance. It is the best feeling.

Have a fantastic day everyone.

Flipping Tables

One of my favorite parts of the Bible: when Jesus got angry.

I’m actually going to start with  John 2:1-11, which is  Jesus turning water into wine. That was his first miracle. Also look at John 7:6.

An important point is that Jesus knew when He was supposed to do things. He said it wasn’t His time to perform his first miracle. That being said, I don’t really know why he did it if it wasn’t His time, but He must’ve had a reason.

Yay, now it’s time for flipping tables! Read John 2:12-25. It’s awesome. It makes me happy.

Jesus went and cleansed the Temple because a bunch of idiots were turning it into a business. Jesus walked in, saw all this happening, and made a whip.

He made a whip.

He didn’t walk through calmly saying “You really shouldn’t be doing this, friends, but if you feel like it’s the way you were born, or if you just love everyone, it’s ok.”

No. He went through driving people out with a whip and flipping their money changing tables over. He yelled at them to get out because His father’s temple was not a place of business. He had some really awesome righteous anger.

Jesus was not meek. He was not always gentle and kind. I do not know why people paint him that way. He took action, he was aggressive, he was physical..

One of the verses says something about zeal for his Father’s house consuming Him. The Greek word for zeal translates into jealousy. He was jealous for His father’s house because it was not what it was meant to be. It had become taken over by the world. It was no longer a place of reverence. People were changing money and selling doves.

This brings me to a concern about today’s mega churches. A lot of the times they have coffee shops, stores, something. They are selling things in their church, and I don’t know how they justify that.

I think it’s ok if it’s a fundraiser, but if people are getting paid to work it or it pays for a pastor’s salary or something, it’s a business and it’s wrong. It’s just plain disrespectful.

One more point to draw from His actions was that he spoke out against what they were doing wrong, not against them as people. He didn’t attack anyone personally. I strive to do that in my blog and I think I do a decent job of it. I speak out against sin without involving a certain people group as best I can.

If you look from Jesus CONVERTING water to wine and then CLEANSING the Temple right after, you see what He does in us. After we convert, we are cleansed, we are renewed. Jesus has wonderful power, let Him work it in you.

The Customary New Years Post

I liked 2014. I really did. But I’m looking forward to 2015.

First, about my past year.

It didn’t have the greatest start. My family found out my brother has something called ITP, a blood platelet deficiency. But soon enough Golden Boy and I were hanging out a lot, dance started, and work was going well.

I got the lead in my spring show and suddenly it was summer.

Summer brought about dates, dance shows, rain, and Mississippi.

My second summer at Ballet Magnificat was a wonderful experience. I went for the entire month of July. I met some fantastic people, met a goal, and learned a lot. While I was 5,000 miles away from home, my brother was sent to the hospital for his ITP.

It scared me, but I was blessed because I was surrounded by Christian women who comforted me while I wasn’t sure what was going on.

After Ballet Mag, I went home and got a job at the hotel Golden Boy works at. It’s a seasonal job, so I only worked for about a month and a half, but it was a great experience.

I started college classes and started teaching my own ballet class. My Christmas show went splendidly and the holidays have been wonderful.

It is now 2015 and frankly that frightens me. I’m going to graduate, I’m going to be an adult, and my little brother is going to be a teenager.

At the same time, I’m looking forward to being done with high school. I’m looking forward to working at the hotel again. I’m looking forward to becoming an aunt.

I’m happy right now, guys. I have a fantastic family, a wonderful boyfriend, and I still love dance and teaching.

My New Year’s resolution is to finish writing the second Time Brigade book. I’m halfway done, but it’s slow-going. I hope to reach more people with my blog as well.

Happy New Years, dear readers!! What are your resolutions?

Soul Mate Part 2

There’s disagreement in the Christian community as to whether or not we really have soul mates. Maybe you don’t like the term ‘soul mate’, but that’s all it is; a term. I’m just using it to describe the person God intends for you to marry. I believe they are interchangeable.

I had someone ask for my Biblical sources for my statements in the previous post, and I thought I’d share them with you guys too.

First off is Genesis 2:18, 21-24. (Disclaimer: I won’t be rewriting all of the Bible verses in here. You have internet. Go look them up 🙂 ) This section of the Bible talks about how God made a helper for Adam. Just one. Not multiple to choose from. They were to be one flesh- the heart of God’s design for marriage.

1 Corinthians 7:1-2. Unless celibate, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.

I don’t know about you guys, but that seems to mean that there aren’t several people that the man should marry. Just one that God intends for him to marry.

Matthew 19: 4-6 b : Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.

That one may seem like it’s for marriage, but think about it. God knows who you are going to marry. He knows who he wants you to marry. I don’t know exactly how God works, and I don’t pretend to, but I believe that he essentially ‘joins’ you and your future spouse together quite some time before you even meet.

It’s like God is shipping us together and hoping we have the good sense to become canon

Sorry, fangirl lingo. But it works.

Of course, there’s always the argument of free will.

“The idea that God has one person for you to marry contradicts one of the fundamental aspects of the human nature, that He gave us; free will”

Except that argument just doesn’t work. God is not forcing us to marry anyone. We can marry whoever the heck we want. But God has one person that you are perfect for, and who is perfect for you. He still allows us to exercise free will, but what we need to do is pray for guidance from Him. We should pray that we find the person God has appointed for us.

If you guys have any more questions, please ask away in the comments.