Modest is Hottest

Oh, but what is modesty, hm? Many people have different opinions on modesty. And it seem like some don’t have an opinion about it at all…

Please, while you’re reading this, keep in mind that this is MY opinion, not what your opinion must be. Though, it wouldn’t hurt to agree with me 😉 Haha kidding, kidding…. except only kind of.

Anyway, girls, let’s talk modesty. According to the dictionary modesty is sexual reserve: reserve in appearance, manner, and speech, especially in relation to sexual matters. This doesn’t mean you can’t wear tank tops and shorts, that’s not what I believe at all. And, just to share, I sometimes even let my bra straps show *gasp*. You should dress comfortably, and in a way that makes you feel good about yourself. You’re allowed to look cute and feel beautiful.

But, when you start dressing for other people, that’s when lines get blurred. For instance, when you pick out a low-cut tank top, because it’ll get the boys excited… yeah, not modest, not Christian, not classy.

Plus, as a Christian girl, I don’t want to tempt my boyfriend into sexual thoughts. I’m not saying I’m perfect. Of course I want him to like how I look. Confession: I’ve worn shorts because I knew he’d like them. They weren’t, like, spandex, booty shorts. Just regular denim shorts, not even that short. But it wasn’t because I wanted him to think about me like that. It was because I know he likes how I look, and I personally believe that it’s ok to be flirty in how you dress as long as it’s not immodest (sexual, trashy, provocative, whatever floats your goat)

There’s another side to this though, because if you’re dating someone, you want them to be physically attracted to you. I’m sure boys try not to think about girls in a sexual way all the time (well some of them at least… the one’s worth dating) but that’s just not how the world works. And you can’t blame them, girls have those thoughts too. God made men and women attracted to one another, and not just our brains.

So, summary: Modesty; good. Temptation; bad. It’s ok to wear clothes that make you feel good about yourself. It’s not ok when you wear clothes just to look hot, or sexy, or whatever.

Swimsuits! NOT an excuse to wear the minimal amount of clothing and say it’s ok because it’s a swimsuit. Honestly, some things are for your husbands eyes only. Bikinis = bad. They were invented, not for comfort, but to show as much skin as possible.

Um… yeah I think I made my point. Comment opinions please 😀

6 thoughts on “Modest is Hottest

  1. I wouldn’t say bikinis are bad. You’re showing skin, yes, but that doesn’t mean you want people to long to your body. Bodies are not only objects of desire, so it shouldn’t always be wrong to show them.
    Of course that is my opinion, and I believe that we are different is the way that you are Christian and I am not – which without a doubt changes our way of thinking!

    I do agree upon the not dressing in a trashy way. You should dress like you want, not likee other people want indeed. And honestly, trashy is not nice to see either. Classy is the way to go I think! (Feels badass too.)


  2. As my husband often says, men are very visual and how you dress plays into that. I believe modesty is good and also that you can dress to look good, yet remain modest. Unfortunately, I see so many young women, girls and even very young girls dressed in a way that I’d called trashy…or worse. Dress so you don’t hang out of your shorts in the back or out of your tops in the front or so no one can look down the front of your outfit and not so tight that it appears your clothes have been painted on. Honestly, many of those looks aren’t really attractive, even though they do get the attention of men.

    The bottom line, if you’ll excuse the expression, is that men who want to get to know you for you, will do so if you’re dressed nicely but modestly. You don’t really want the others anyway.



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